No wonder, then, that a man with a good friend, or a woman with a good friend, at home with your own (marriage) partner often gets in trouble: one in three had ever do it in the interview with the jealousy of the spouses , Sometimes not entirely unjustified, because the friends felt even more attracted to another, depending dissatisfied they were with their own partnership. Whether in marriage or partnership because the air was out of friendship or latter thrives because of relationship problems, however, remains speculation.
The friendship between man and woman is often divorced from mutual attraction and sexuality. Among students end up being two of three such friendships in bed. Often the women want from a so-called Friends with Benefits, which it flows into true love. Men appreciate it especially sex. Only about one in five of these compounds actually turns into a romance.
But what, if not the love of it and the sex ends? Had the friendship is deep enough, it survives even the sex, concludes a US study. With the end of sexual near broke apart a fifth of all friendships. But 80 percent of the compounds persisted, even when they were platonic again. Half of the respondents felt just as close as before, sometimes even closer after the affair to a friend or girlfriend.
Men and women have different demands on a friendship. This shows a summary trial in which 37 studies were analyzed with a total of more than 8800 subjects. Females lay thus more emphasis on trust, loyalty, self-opening and togetherness than men. At the same time counts in male friendships even if the other has something to offer: Is the friend wealthy, fit, attractive or intelligent?
Even at school age the differences begin. Adolescent girls evaluate their friendships more highly than boys the same age. They open more often to their friends tend to react to feelings and needs of others connect with their friends more positive and less negative feelings. A pattern hardly changes in adulthood.
Little wonder then that women often experience less fulfilling than the friendship of a man, whereas men appreciate a good friend at her side more than male allies. A mixed-gender research team from the USA summarized his study findings as follows: “A friendship that involve at least one woman is more satisfying than friendships that do not offer that.”
Now think times briefly to her closest friends, say the top 5 on the people with whom you can go through thick and thin, with which you can perform many serious and open conversations where you always feel at home. If you are a man: How many of them are women? If you are a woman: how many are men? Correct, the least. About 90 percent of our friends are not just like us when it comes to attitude, interests and values. They also have the same sex.
Why this is so and whether perhaps is a good thing, scientists are exploring only a few years. Men and women can be friends, which are at least four out of five adults safe. Nevertheless, these interpersonal connections are rare – and be watched closely. Men + Women = friends – can it really work? The research shows that skepticism is not unwarranted.
The biggest problem we have in life is loneliness. And we need this social village, so we have confirmation from the outside. So people are there that carry us basically. We know that if we have good friends, we are much more stable emotionally. Who has good friends, some 20 years living longer.
If I have friends who have been 10, 20, 30 years, why I share the friend not even with what qualities are what I like about him. In a love relationship, we occasionally write love letters. Why not write friends letters in which I tell the friend, I like that. These are five qualities that I find in you great.